Posts Tagged ‘friendship



ImageLast month I had the privilege of attending a much awaited conference for coaches and trainers from the Neuro-Semantics community. It was held in Kuala Lumpur, a stone’s throw from Singapore, where I would be in town for some assignments.

The presentations and workshops were wonderful learning experiences where the speakers shared great insights on various topics. There were many hilarious moments when the talks were kept light hearted but serious in content.

What struck me most was the renewed friendships with fellow trainers and coaches from different parts of the world, many of whom I have not seen for more than five years. It was easy to pick up from where we left off. We could also see how much we have grown from the younger we to present now, enriched by life experiences. It was also a good time to catch up with my Indonesian friends whom I met just a couple of month ago in Bali, always warm in demeanour.

Making new friends was on my agenda, connecting with people I have not met. Some were connected through the friendly social media, Facebook and it was the first time I meet them. Others were names mentioned or listed in the regular eNewsletters sent out and when we live in a virtual community, I now can finally place the name to the face in person.

Then there was the opportunity to connect at a higher level with compatriots from the same country. It has always been a busy, rush-about time that we never stop for a cuppa. Thus being at the conference meant we could share a meal, chat a bit, share information and bounce ideas off each other. Going forward, we could now work more closely to push forward for new frontiers.

One thing that came as a surprise for me at the conference was a number of people who said they knew me when I have never, never met them before. With raised eyebrows, I wondered aloud how that came about. They explained that they have seen my name in the posts of the eNewsletters. That then made sense. I hardly post anything in response to the key message of the newsletters over the years and this year I only posted twice. I had no idea the effect of the post was more far reaching than expected when all I wanted to do was add a positive view to support the original one.

The conference has met its objectives and allowed the people in the community to connect at the deepest level, leveraging on each other’s strengths and expertise. The networking continues beyond the conference with friends linking up through social media and possibly at the next training sessions or in two years’ time, the next conference in HK. It’s a small world after all and I cannot ask for a nicer circle of global friends. I look forward to connecting with these friends again.




This week, an old friend just connected with me via my recent eNewsletter. I was very elated. It had been such a long time since we last kept in touch. More than 2 years? How did I let that slip? It’s funny, how we take a long shot at the word Friends. We all have friends, many, in fact. But real friends?

Real friends are people we feel comfortable with. It never fails to amaze me how we can pick up from where we left off, be it weeks, months, years. The connection is real, never fake. They rise above common pleasantries and air kisses. These friends take you as you are and hear you out, even if you sound like a broken recorder. You can say whatever you want and are not judged. They know your strengths and weaknesses and let you be you. They also know when to knock sense into you and let you stay grounded.

As we grow older, making friends takes time and effort. Little children make friends easily. Being adults we are more cautious when linking up with people. Pressed for time, we do not even let the friendships grow, much less nurture new ones. Three years ago, I decided I would like to make new friends and get to know more people. In the midst, make some really good friends out of them. Some of them, at least. And I did. I made time to meet up and chat and be there for them. It isn’t how many friends I have made, but the real friends I have encountered and let the friendship grow. I do think of them often and wonder how they are.

So here’s to all my real friends out there. I just want to say: Thank you for understanding. Thank you for all the support. Thank you for all the laughter. Thank you for being there. Most of all, thank you for being you. : )

P/S – Will be in touch. Soon. I promise.